We chat to the young Mampho a day after losing her virginity to Jabu, her “sugar daddy.”
Last night Mampho surrendered to Jabu despite warnings from her friends. The 16-year-old’s 40-year-old lover finally managed to break Mampho’s virginity, barely two months into the relationship.
What is Mampho thinking? We ask actress Itumeleng Bokaba.
You are dating an older man, is Jabu the guy you had always imagined as your first love?
Not really, the relationship between me and Jabu happened in a time when I was desperately looking to be loved and not necessarily be in love. As a full figured teen I have self-esteem issues plus I don’t get the attention I deserve and my parents (Jafta and Rose) were recently on the verge of a divorce. Here comes this man who looks past all these imperfections and wants to love me! All I can say is Jabu was the booster that my personality needed.
Last night you had sex for the first time, are you worried about the risks?
Consciously I’m not thinking of the implications, but at the back of my mind I know that engaging in unprotected sex is risky. I want to please Jabu and I’m relying on him to have my best interest at heart.
What made you agree to Jabu’s proposal?
I wanted to have control of my life and prove to myself that I’m beautiful and that there is someone who actually loves me for me. Most of my friends are always ahead of me, but dating Jabu, I’m now the first to have a boyfriend amongst my friends.
Why not date a boy your own age?
Most of my peers aren’t interested in asking me out and barely give me attention.
How has dating an older man changed your perspective on life?
In my mind he is my all and my goal is to ensure I keep him happy, hence I bunk school at times to be with him.
What if the relationship ends?
If Jabu were to end the relationship, it would crush me. Jabu is my feel-good drug. But if I’m the one who walks away from him, all will be OK.
What do you think of Mampho and Jabu’s relationship? What advice would you offer her if she was your friend?
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